Forty Years

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Happy Anniversary From Our

Four Beautiful Children!

How very blessed my husband and I are to have raised four wonderful children that we are proud to call our friends. They orchestrated a touching tribute to us today from four different places here in the good ole’ US.

#1 Child and #3 Child made sure we were home and geared up for an on line ‘meeting’ (wink, wink – no really, we did need to get together lol). As we all worked to get the kinks out our differing devices my husband received a call letting him know there was a delivery person at the gate needing to get in.

When he returned he had in his arms a large vase with 18 long stem red roses. Just gorgeous! We were then told to open our email, there in the in-box was a touching three page PDF that brought tears to our eyes. It started with









All around these names (a few of their pet names for us) were pictures of them taken with us over the years. There was also a collage of my husband and I.

I didn’t want to post the PDF that they did for us; their sentiments were and are theirs to share.  So I decided to create a little collage of my own… Happy 40th Anniversary to the love of my life.


From the first, to the twenty-fifth, to the present I am thankful for our marriage. If I could say anything to young couples just starting out it would be this, your marriage is bigger than:

  • Burnt Toast
  • Kitchen Trash not taken out
  • An unbalanced check book
  • A Forgotten Appointment/Anniversary/Birthday
  • Or even a Misunderstanding

I could go on and on, but you get my point, forgiveness goes a long way. I read/saw (don’t remember which) something the other day that I want to do. The person telling or writing the story was describing something he had witnessed his parents do.

They had an argument/disagreement, and his Dad left the room and went into his office. The young man finally went and knocked on his Dad’s office door. When he entered the room he saw his Dad reading.

His father explained to his son that whenever he got upset with his mother he would go and read this list he had created.

What was on the list? I don’t remember exactly how he worded it, but in essence it was all the reasons why he loved his wife, things/good qualities that he loved about her.

I thought this was a good idea. I haven’t done it as of yet, but I plan to. It’s the little things that can ruin a marriage if you allow them to. Don’t let them fester, squash them as soon as they pop their ugly head up.

Celebrate your love… you won’t always feel ‘the love’, so don’t rely on your feelings. I’m glad that my feelings have been positive for the majority of these forty years. Coupled with our faith in the Lord and in each other we have arrived to another milestone.

I pray we are blessed to enjoy many many more!




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Whether you believe in Him or not… He is there for all of us. We honor those that lost their lives seventeen years ago by remembering them.

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I pray for families that lost love ones that fateful day. My hope is that your memories are  ones of fondness, and that good memories will continue to erode the hurt and pain of that day.

9 11 ship lets roll We are grateful for all who continue to serve in our armed forces, the men and women who sacrifice to keep us safe.

My paternal grandfather served in the Spanish-American War, my father served in Vietnam, my father in law served in the Army, my husband served in the Army, our son now serves in the Marines, and our grandson plans to enlist in the Air Force upon graduation from college.

Freedom Is Not Free!

This Nation has it’s faults (as many nations do), but there is no other place I would want to live. Being an Army brat, and a military wife I have had to privilege of living in other countries. They each had their faults, along with their rich history, beautiful sites and citizens who were proud of their native land.

But there is no place on this earth that I would rather live. I long for the day that we as American’s can co-exist. It’s OK to have a difference of opinion, it’s OK to belong to different political parties, it’s OK that your skin color is different from mine…


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So on this Tuesday, September 11, 2018 we as American’s pause to remember the fallen; we also remember those that have paid the ultimate sacrifice since 2001.


John 15:13

We Remember…


I Say A Little Pray For You…

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As my title alludes… Franklin family I say a prayer for you this day. A prayer that includes requests for comfort, and peace as you grieve the lost of the patriot of your family. I pray that the good memories will lessen the sadness of your love one no longer being with you.

Like many other young girls during 1967 and 68 I was dancing and singing songs like; Respect, Chain A Fool, Think, and of course the song I referred to I Say A Little Prayer For You.

Many fond memories came to my mind as I listened to songs being played today to honor this woman that was truly blessed with an awesome voice.

I wonder how many know that Aretha Franklin began her career as a child singing gospel at New Bethel Baptist Church in Detroit, where her father, C. L. Franklin, was minister. Wikipedia





oberia's-green-circleA Labor of Love!

I thought I would share a few shots of my sister’s handy work. I must admit after thirty seven years in the desert I felt I had paid my dues… I was ready for greener pastures. Pastures that I did not have to water in order for them to be green :-).


Water and Time!

A lot of time, and a consistent amount of water. It doesn’t hurt to have willing (even ‘not-so-willing’) children and grandchildren to assist you in your labor of love.



It doesn’t hurt that my sister and her family oberia's-garden1love animals…   My husband – not so much.

My boys and I labored hard.

We dug trenches, laid PVC pipe, created a brick path through our square foot garden system, enclosed the area with a 6 foot fence….

Yeh, about that… without dogs, or cats; the ground squirrels, rabbits and birds wreaked havoc on our garden.

After about the third year my husband asked me was I tired of stocking the neighborhood grocery store for the wildlife in our area…

So I diverted my attention from the ‘Wildlife Corner Store’ to fruit and nut trees. I planted apple, peach, fig, plum, pear and pecan trees.


This of course meant more digging, and additional PVC pipe.

I think the straw that broke the camels back was watching  ground squirrels on hot days pick plums or figs from the fruit trees in the front yard and then lay in the shade under my truck to eat their tasty morsels…

This is a shot of my oldest nephew (home for a visit) giving his Mom’s thirsty plants a drink.







I am enjoying my new region!


Out of my windows (front and back) I see horses, cows, and water. Love it!

Deer occasionally roam in my back yard (in our community you are not allowed to hunt the deer).

Every road trip is a treat for my eyes, they were so green starved;                        Now there are  Trees, and Grass Everywhere!

We are a blessed people, there’s a place for everyone.

Oceans, snow capped mountains, deserts dotted with cactus, and my all time favorite Tumble Weeds-lol, forest, rolling hills, green pastures, sky scrapers, side walks on and on… find your beauty!

Make sure to Bring your inner beauty where ever you go!

On a final note where ever you live try to find the beauty.  “To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted. ”      Titus 1:15

Final, final note LOL let’s try to find creative ways to help the less fortunate.  There are some that would absolutely love to be where you are. Remember it’s all about perspective.

“I cried because I had no shoes

until I met a man who had

no feet.”

Helen Keller





Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.                                          Is. 43:19 King James 2000

Watching my sister come to the desert and put her roots down deep was a joy to watch. Once settled in, it was all over but the shaking; I felt she was like… hmm how much adventure can I expose my family to.    mountain-adventure

At the same time she and her husband desired to instill faith, family, and good work ethics into their children.  Between our two families we have ten children; and I am sure if we had allowed them a vote they would have declared yard work illegal during their teenage years!

I think my sister could grow flowers and vegetables on the moon! oberia's-vines

Over the years I have watched as she took seedlings and cuttings and lovingly nurtured them into beautiful mature plants.

She and her husband enjoy sitting outside in the cool of the morning enjoying nature, the results of her labor, and each other.

Sometimes we may feel forgotten and all alone, as if we are on the backside of the desert. Beat down by the scorching sun and stifling heat (caused by situations and circumstances); just longing for a cup of water for our thirsty souls.

We get so down on ourselves we can’t seem to find beauty in hardly anything. Joy and happiness seem like things that only happen for other people.

Please know there is One who is concerned about our situations, circumstances, and our lives. Just as He promises to bring rivers to the desert places, He offers us living waters for our thirsty souls. “But whosoever drinks of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst, but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.”   John 4:14 King James 2000desert-love-mountain-view

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and we have a loving Heavenly Father that sees beauty in what some would say is the least of us.

We have but to accept His love.

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. ”  John 3:16  KJ2000

Thank you to my sister Oberia for sharing her photos with me 🙂


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We hold these truths to be selfevident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.                                         Thomas Jefferson

The United States of America…

I pray for our nation.

Not for Red states or Blue states… but for The ‘United‘ states.

Can we ever become ‘united’; holding differing opinions and yet civil to one another.

One persons beliefs do not make them less than or better than someone else. Instead of looking for things we disagree on why not at least try to find common ground. Surely there are a few things that we can agree on.

We all want Life, Liberty, and Happiness.

Know this, whether we are Red, Yellow, Black, or White, we all bleed red blood. Men and women have shed blood that we might live free in this nation. We must not forget that ‘Freedom’ is not Free.

We are less than a month away from our celebration of Independence Day. A day that in many cases has been boiled down to hot dogs and fireworks…

The Declaration of Independence, is a historic document that was drafted by Thomas Jefferson. We were not made up of states back then, there were 13 colonies that came together (united) to stand against their common foe – England.

When I started this post I had planned to go in a completely different direction… but I ended up here. I believe what we have lost in our great nation is Love and Respect for each other.

Because if you love and respect someone you will treat them with kindness. I know I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated. Kindness goes a Long way.

So I will continue to have faith in our nation. Faith that we will not allow hatred tear us apart. Faith that we can be that bright shining light on the hill. We definitely aren’t perfect, and we have quite a way to go in certain areas….

But there is no other place in the world where I would rather live.





To All You Beautiful Mother’s Out There


I hope you have a wonderful day with your love ones.

If you aren’t blessed to still have your Mother in your life take a moment to let her know what she means to you.

You may say that you and your Mother don’t have the greatest of relationships… still reach out and show kindness. If it were not for her giving birth to you, you would not be here.

She may not be the type of person you ‘feel’ you can be proud of… don’t judge her, you did not have to walk in her shoes. Love can cover a multitude of faults.

It may be that she wants nothing to do with you because of poor decisions on your part… don’t stop loving her, be the person that makes good decisions. Not just for her, but for yourself. Don’t lose hope that one day your relationship may be restored… I pray it will be.

To all you potential Mother’s… your day is coming. Be the type of Mom that one day your children will rise up and call you blessed.Mother's Day

The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Rules The World!