Mama & I

Mother’s Day

Gone But Never Forgotten… Always In My Heart

Mother’s Day has come and gone…

This was the first time I was not able to wish my Mother a “Happy Mother’s Day”. I couldn’t just pick up the phone and say ‘Hi Mama’.

I miss laughing and being silly with her remembering days gone by.

I miss being able to ask questions that only she would know the answer to.

But she lives on in my heart and mind. A tear or two may fall from time to time, but more times than not I find a smile on my face remembering something she had said or done when we were together.

For those of you that are blessed to still have your Mother in your life let me encourage you not to wait for a special day to tell your mother that you care. Take a moment today to tell her that you love her.

We never know when it’s the last time we will see our love one.





Work You’d Do Without Getting Paid!

Stop Cocooning

Spread Your Wings & Fly!


I met a young woman this morning in the Club Lounge of a particular hotel, she was so bubbly and excited about the company she has aligned herself with. I was drawn in simply by her smile and enthusiasm…. I had to ask what “It Works” meant (it was on her sweat shirt), she put her breakfast plate down and left to go to her room to get me a brochure. Did I mention she was passionate about what she does. 🙂

I’m not affiliated with her in anyway, and I’ve never used her products…. but when she told me her why (She wants to help her husband give her and their children a better life. They do what they need to do to send their young children to a school that offers STEM classes). Her desire is to leave corporate America and have a job that is fun.

I wanted to help in some way. So if you are curious check out her It Works site. Just tell her ‘Women As Treasure’ sent you. It doesn’t feather my cap, I just want her to know that I remembered her and that she made an impression.

So I ask again… are you passionate about what you are currently doing? If your answer is no what are you going to do about it? It’s time to come out of your shell, time to dust off your dream, time to break out of that cocoon.

Cocooning is the name given to the trend that sees individuals socializing less and retreating into their home more. The term was coined in the 1990s by Faith Popcorn, a trend forecaster and marketing consultant.

Faith coined the term “Cocooning” which is the impulse to stay inside when people feel the ‘outside’ has gotten too tough and scary”. They then turn their homes into a “nest” or a cocoon if you will.

It’s time for women young and old to break out of their cocoon, time to emerge like a butterfly to enjoy the life they were created to enjoy.

The process of a lava becoming a butterfly is a fascinating one…. just don’t stay inside too long 🙂

Educating Our Youth

Halt The Escalation Of Dropouts

It was a  shock to see the numbers depicting the percentage of 16 through 24 year olds who are not enrolled in school and have not earned a high school credential (a diploma or a GED certificate).

The information below was gathered from the U.S. Department of Education, and  the National Center for Education Statistics.

The status dropout rate declined from 12 percent in 1990 to 7 percent in 2011. Reflecting the overall decline in the status dropout rate between 1990 and 2011, the rates also declined for Whites (from 9 percent to 5 percent), Blacks (from 13 percent to 7 percent), and Hispanics (from 32 percent to 14 percent).

Over this period, the status dropout rate was lowest for Whites, followed by Blacks and Hispanics. For example, in 2011, the status dropout rate for Whites (5 percent) was lower than the status dropout rates for Blacks (7 percent) and Hispanics (14 percent).

The gap between Whites and Hispanics narrowed from 23 percentage points in 1990 to 9 percentage points in 2011; the gaps between Whites and Blacks in these two years were not measurably different.

The data was based on sample surveys of the civilian non-institutionalized population, which included people in prisons, the military, and others not living in households. 

What can be done to help our children, our youth, our future?

If you have the desire to help look for organizations, schools, or faith based groups that are striving to make a difference. To get you started I have re-posted a fund raiser letter that my daughter sent out to friends, family, and business associates. To learn more about the company you may go to http://www.dmmsi. If you like what you see please forward the information. Here is the letter:

Please help DMMSI’s support education for inner-city youth.  We are
selling t-shirts for $20.00 in order to provide STEM Education for
1,000-2,000 inner-city youth.  By purchasing a t-shirt you are giving
youth access to math, science and reading online learning via Qtopia for
one year.

We have until 11/16/2013 to reach our goal so make sure to buy your
t-shirt now and forward this email on to everyone you know!!

UPDATE! THAT FUND RAISER HAS CLOSED… However you can still help DMMSI provide technology programs for high school students by purchasing a sweatshirt or t-shirt today! GO TO :  UPDATE EFFECTIVE 2-2014 through 2-2015

DMMSI thanks you for your support.

Diane Tucker, President

Resolution? No New Mindset!

Resolutions For 2013

Are you kidding me? 2012 is gone already… it’s seems quite frankly that it was just a few of months ago when we all were counting down –
THREE! TWO! ONE! HAPPY NEW YEAR! (Shall old acquaintance be forgot… You remember.)
Is it really time to make resolutions that may only last for a month or two… or is it time for a new way of thinking? Question? What did you do with your list of 2012 resolutions, did they make it to March, how about June? Well good for you. Some of us didn’t make it that far 😉

Today is the first day of the rest of your life!

I’m sure you’ve heard this said before; has it become another catch phrase to be throw around (not holding any weight)? Or are you willing to say it to yourself with a different perspective. Saying it with conviction, and believing it this time. We each have another day hopefully another year to do something meaningful, to make a positive difference in our life or the life of someone else.

We tend to focus so much on the negative, let’s highlight all that’s good and right in this world. I dare you to get caught doing something good (the whole idea is to try to remain anonymous). I challenge you to find someone less fortunate than yourself and do something for them (not asking for anything in return). Here’s a new thought, how about the government attempting to live on a balanced budget? (Sorry, supposed to be positive) Stop spending more than you have; there, that’s positive, or at least the government wouldn’t be in the negative column.

OK, getting back on track. Bottom line, let’s treasure the life we have been given. Your life may not be in the best shape right now, you may be down and out (so to speak). Let’s start right there… I’m talking about your speech. Nothing new age, just your mindset. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Whether you are male or female, your thoughts are very important.

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Our thoughts are just that, OUR thoughts. We have control over them, no one else. Controlling our thoughts is something we can all do that won’t cost us a dime, but we stand to gain a big return. It pays good dividends. This isn’t some hocus pocus magic trick, and it isn’t as easy as it sounds.  I speak from experience, and I had divine help. I’ve smiled with tears running down my face saying out loud to no one but myself; “It’s gotta change”. I’ve lived with sadness, and despair as roommates. Hopelessness drove me to try to end my life more than once.

There are times when I want to offer words of encouragement to others and feelings of “Who are you” creep into my mind. I have to suppress those thoughts and feelings and remind myself that true I am no one special, and I definitely don’t have all the answers. It’s just that there was a time when my life wasn’t so great and I would have loved for someone to reach out to me. I was raped and I kept it to myself, besides that I grew in an incestuous home. I wasn’t always married, and there was a time when I thought I never would be. There were times when I tried to give up on life, and almost succeeded. Times early on in my marriage that it didn’t seem like it would last ten years, let alone the wonderful thirty-four years it has. I lived with more than my share of hurt and pain (and I know there are countless others that would have traded my situation for theirs any day. We only have to walk a few steps in someone else shoes to realize life could be worse.

  “I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.”

And so I encourage you to take on a new mindset this coming year. Will it get you a job “Right Away” probably not, but it won’t hurt to look for inexpensive ways to enhance your job skills, take every opportunity to better yourself. Encourage yourself, watch your thoughts.

Will this stop your teenager from being a brat; again probably not right away. But first try being a parent instead of a friend. Respect your child and require them to respect you as well. Love goes a long way. Love is not buying your child stuff, it’s caring enough to be there for them, and teaching them the difference between right and wrong.

Will changing your thoughts put food on your table, or shelter over your head, I pray it were as easy as that. Where is the America of yesteryear, when neighbors genuinely cared for one another. Today we are hesitant to help others for fear of them taking advantage of us (and rightly so). There are faith based organizations that are willing to help. There are still good samaritans willing to help someone in need. I challenge you to put on your good samaritan hat this coming year.

Speaking of faith 🙂 I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge the divine help that I received early on in my life. I accepted Jesus. Did that acceptance stop my father from drinking and change my life over night to one of roses, gum drops, and parades everyday – no, but I gained a new mindset.

It rains on the just and the unjust, it’s all a matter of how I choose to walk this life that was purchased for me. With His help I made it through, hopefully I can help someone else.

2013 is here, what are you going to do with it?


“Friends” who needs them?

I think we all do; and not just ‘fair weather’ friends; you know the kind that will stick around even when the storms come. Most of us can make it when things are going well. It’s when the chips are down that we need a shoulder to lean on.

So what if you don’t have any real friends… have you ever read the quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson  “The only way to have a friend is to be one ”

My daughter sent me an email the other day, I don’t know it’s origin but I wanted to share it here, it’s called:


When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend. Then as I stared to become a woman, I found out that if you allow your heart to open up, God would show you the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you’re going through things with your man. Another friend is needed when you’re going through things at work. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.

One friend will say, ‘Let’s cry together,’ another, ‘Let’s fight together,’ another, ‘Let’s walk away together.’

One friend will meet your spiritual needs, another your shoe fetish, another your love for movies another will be with you in your season of confusion, another will be your clarifier, another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life, on whatever the occasion, on whatever the day, or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes and hair pulled back, or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself.

Those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman, but for many, it’s wrapped up in several…
One from school, one from high school, several from the college years, a couple from old jobs.

On some days your mother, on some days your neighbor, on others, your sisters, and on some days, your daughters.

So whether they’ve been a friend for 20 minutes or 20+ years,


Pass this on to the women that God has placed in your life to make a difference.

Pretty Ladies!!!

Hello all, I’m sure you are aware that this is Breast Cancer Awareness month. A BIG Thank you to the athletes that are making a beautiful statement with all of the pink gear; it looks nice on the field!

This email was forwarded to me by a dear friend. In case it hasn’t crossed your computer I thought I would share it with you. I want you to be a part of my ten (hundreds 😉 )I share it with.

I am not a pretty lady – but a handsome gentleman that supports breast cancer (all kinds of cancer) awareness.  So I am forwarding this on.
Lord Bless you all!!!!!

Good Morning, Pretty Ladies!

Life is not the way it’s supposed to be.  It’s the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. Whether you are a cancer survivor or have been impacted by this illness in some other way – you are a pretty lady!!!!



You have been “hit”…

You have been considered one of the 10 prettiest ladies with a kind, warm and loving heart. Once you have been “hit”, you have to “hit” 10 pretty ladies with kind, warm and loving hearts.
If you get “hit” again you know you’re really pretty and kind.
So “hit” 10 pretty ladies to let them know they are pretty — both on the inside and the outside – and that they are loved and cared for.


All you are asked to do is keep this circulating (even if to only one person). In memory or in honor of anyone you know who has been struck by cancer.

Does You Treasure Box Contain Vitamin F?

What’s in your treasure box, do you have one? This was sent to me by a friend, I thought I’d share…

Why do I have a variety of friends who are all so different in character?

How can I get along with them all?

I think that each one helps to bring out a “different” part of me.

With one of them I am polite.
I joke with another friend.
I sit down and talk about serious matters with one.
With another I laugh a lot.
I may have a drink with one.
I listen to one friend’s problems.
Then I listen to another one’s advice for me.
My friends are all like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle.
When completed, they form a treasure box.
A treasure of friends!
They are my friends who understand me better than myself,
Who support me through good days and bad days.
We all pray together and for each other.

Real Age doctors tell us that friends are good for our health.
Dr. Oz calls them Vitamins F (for Friends) and counts the benefits of friends as essential to our well being. Research shows that people in strong social circles have less risk of depression and terminal strokes. If you enjoy Vitamins F constantly you can be up to 30 years younger than your real age.  The warmth of friendship stops stress and even in your most intense moments it decreases the chance of a cardiac arrest or stroke by 50%.

I’m so happy that I have a stock of Vitamins F!

In summary, we should value our friends and keep in touch with them.
We should try to see the funny side of things and laugh together,
and pray for each other in the tough moments.

Thank you for being one of my Vitamins!

So do you have vitamin F in your treasure box? I hope so.

“Words are easy, like the wind; Faithful friends are hard to find.”  William Shakespeare

“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”  Proverbs 18:24